At night when everyone is silent and everything is still, I lie in the darkness of my windowless room, the place where they exile me from the community of their heart, and search the unmoving blackness to see if I can find my way home. I tell myself stories, write poems, record my dreams. In my journal I write—I belong in this place of words. This is my home. This dark, bone black inner cave where I am making a world for myself.
—bell hooks, Bone Black: Memories of Girlhood
Things I’ve been telling myself lately
- It is what it is.
- The universe knows what it’s doing, it makes no mistakes. Everything is happening exactly as it should.
- Let go.
- Love the present moment, no matter how beautiful or terrifying it may be.
- No resistance and pure love.
- Your suffering will be taken care of.
I sit before flowers
hoping they will train me in the art
of opening up
I stand on mountain tops believing
that avalanches will teach me to let go
but I am here to learn.— Shane Koyczan (via rarararambles)
Analogy of Lettuce, Friends & Family ~ Thich Nhat Hanh
When you plant lettuce, if it does not grow well, you don’t blame the lettuce. You look for reasons it is not doing well. It may need fertilizer, or more water, or less sun. You never blame the lettuce.
Yet if we have problems with our friends or family, we blame the other person. But if we know how to take care of them, they will grow well, like the lettuce. Blaming has no positive effect at all, nor does trying to persuade using reason and argument.
That is my experience.
No blame, no reasoning, no argument, just understanding.
If you understand, and you show that you understand, you can love, and the situation will change.— (via harvestheart)